As some of you know, I am a Facebook addict. I got to that site 20 times per day to play games, see what my friends are up and whatnot. For better or worse, there it is. I can honestly say that there has been one HUGE "for better" that I much appreciate about Facebook. Because it is so popular, I have been able to reconnect with many people in my life that I had thought were left only in memory.
Last night was one of the best of those moments. Previously, I had reconnected with some of the girls I went to grade school with. Yes, grade school. And we've been chatting it up and making plans to meet up for lunch all this week. I can't wait for that! But last night, I was reconnected with one of my very best friends from back in the day. She was someone I had lost track of and thought of constantly throughout my life. My friend Nikki! My god..when I found her on Facebook the messages started and the texts and it was like we were both 13 again! We were a pair back then, Nikki and I. We were both WAY into music and liked almost the same artists. Bowie and Elton were the big two but for some reason she also had this penchant for Randy Newmann! I could never quite figure that out! Anyway, we used to write these ginormous notes to each other all the time. I mean, at night, at home, writing 15 page notes to give each other the next day in school. The notes were all about our fantasies about marrying rock stars and seeing the world! We had vivid imaginations!
We've been enjoying getting to know one another again. She reminded me of something very funny! She had a picture back then of her brother and some of his friends. There was one friend, John, who I thought was a hotty! She is now married to John but she reminded me of how I said "I want him!" when I saw the picture!! LOL I told her at least she ended up with the hot one!
Luckily, Niks lives in Wisconsin still and gets to Kenosha about once a month. So, we will see each other again. Oh yes we will. I had forgotten how important friends were back then. How much we got each other through at 13. There's a line in "Stand By Me" at the end of the movie that alludes to the serious bonding nature of the friendships of that age. Something like "Did we ever have friends like those we had when we were that age?" And the answer is really no, we don't have that same youthful imagination or careful tending of each other's easily broken hearts that we did back then. When' we're adults we are too filled with adult things and responsibilities to forge those kinds of friendships. Oh, we have good friendships....friends we'd do anything for...but when you think about it deeply, it's not the same.
Reuniting with Nikki brought all of that back to me. All of the teen age hopes and dreams and fears and wondering was plopped right back in my lap. And when we started writing each other again there was a feeling of instant acceptance. There's no ego attached with a friend who knows you inside and out. Nikki knows me. Always has. And I'm finding an enormous amount of comfort in that. I can't wait to see her.
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